Category Archives: Relationships

Strong and healthy relationships make our lives worth living.

Beware: The Relationship LIE that Destroys.

  Complacency slips unseen  into long-term relationships. You’ve been together for ages. You know your partner really well. You know what they are thinking, what they are feeling and what they will choose to eat at a restaurant. Yes, you … Continue reading

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Are you a nag?

Morning rush is not always the best time for communication, is it? Sometimes even the simplest sentences cause great irritation. There I was rushing around getting things organised for the day. My husband was going to have a hectic day … Continue reading

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The importance of oiling the garden bench

My garden bench was almost white from sun and water damage. “Lets oil the wood.” I decided and 10 minutes later …. “Ah that looks better.” 5 minutes later I looked out and it was white again,  as if I … Continue reading

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Emotional Nudity – do you need it?

  When you refuse to hide the real you behind a falsely created persona, you are practicing emotional nudity. Emotional nudity is being honest about who you are and what you are feeling – to yourself and to your partner … Continue reading

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Why defending yourself destroys your relationship…

Pam was feeling upset. She and Craig just had an argument. In fact, she was also feeling confused. She thought she was doing the right thing. He obviously didn’t. They’d been at a lunch with friends earlier. She was telling … Continue reading

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Crush Communication Complications in 4 Steps

Crush Communication Complications Have you ever said something small and trivial to someone and they reacted furiously? As they stormed out the door, you wondered what was wrong with them? You somehow pushed their buttons and you’ve no idea why. … Continue reading

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Is it possible NOT to judge?

The answer is NO. It is impossible not to judge. We do it unconsciously all day every day. The process is instantaneous and usually unconscious. We are not even aware that we are judging. Let’s look at how this happens: … Continue reading

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Long’s Suggestions for Long-Lasting Relationships

Long-lasting relationships are the stuff of fairy-tales. Married-ever after! This is how the fairy-tale ends and no thought is given to the years that follow and to HOW you actually manage this. I did a speech at Toastmasters the other … Continue reading

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Lessons from a dog fight

The gate bell rang.I immediately panicked. “I hope that’s not a client I didn’t know about” I certainly wasn’t ready to see a client – dressed in gym clothes and no make-up. I answered. Nope. Thank goodness. Two lost dogs … Continue reading

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A colourless citizen

I am a Colourless Citizen born on 20/08/1963 A Guest Post by David Fincham I live in a Rainbow Nation. I go unnoticed. I am a Colourless Citizen. I was not born into a colourless World. I am not a … Continue reading

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