Category Archives: Choices

What you do today defines you tomorrow

Every now and again I read something that makes a light bulb go off in my head – it’s that elusive “aha” moment that we all enjoy. I’ve had a mad and crazy year. I have made more mistakes in … Continue reading

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The role you play in a bad relationship

If I were to tell you that you have   played a role in your bad relationship, you will probably get all defensive. More so if you play the blame game: It’s all your partner’s fault. Bear with me. If it’s your partner’s … Continue reading

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Good from Bad

Thabo, a friend of mine, shares this story: Years ago, I landed an awesome job working as a contractor for a well-known IT company here in Johannesburg. I was going to earn a lot more money and my life was … Continue reading

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Will he ever learn? Will you?

Visiting a tiny village in the deep countryside of Mpumulanga is a little bit like being on a reality TV show – strange characters, shenanigans and whispers all make for deluxe entertainment. One of the characters pointed out to us, … Continue reading

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The importance of oiling the garden bench

My garden bench was almost white from sun and water damage. “Lets oil the wood.” I decided and 10 minutes later …. “Ah that looks better.” 5 minutes later I looked out and it was white again,  as if I … Continue reading

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Just in case

Last week I got stuck into my pantry. The messiness had been driving me crazy. I decided – today was the day. I emptied all the shelves, then surveyed the kitchen counter. It was covered in hundreds of jars, bottles … Continue reading

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Self-Help Ecstacy

Self-help books! I love them! I buy them! I devour them! As I read them this I get this ecstatic feeling, which I suspect has something to do with glimpsing a life that I could be living if I followed … Continue reading

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How to Fight a Smear Campaign

So someone has got it in for you…. They’re spreading rumors, telling others how bad you are and even reporting you to the authorities. How best can you fight their campaign? Let’s have a look at a story that took … Continue reading

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How to Kill Task Avoidance

There were some tasks  I just didn’t get done before we went away in December. Every time I looked at my to-do list, I’d see certain items, and then pretend they weren’t there. Invariably I would  choose  something else to … Continue reading

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Is it possible NOT to judge?

The answer is NO. It is impossible not to judge. We do it unconsciously all day every day. The process is instantaneous and usually unconscious. We are not even aware that we are judging. Let’s look at how this happens: … Continue reading

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