Author Archives: Kirsten Long

About Kirsten Long

Coach. Toastmaster. Prison-worker. Wife. Mother. Friend.

Joy Unpacked by Experts

In our Coaching Culture Club meetings, we each make a commitment towards the end of the meeting. At the beginning of the next meeting, we tune into accountability by giving one word that describes how well we kept our commitment. … Continue reading

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Deconstructed cottage pie

  The kitchen was full of energy: pots boiling , food processor slicing and grating, steamer steaming. I had started dinner very late and cottage pie was on the menu.   There are a number of steps to cottage pie: … Continue reading

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The Craziest Competition of All

I walked out this morning at 6:30, hoping it would be cool. My dog was, as usual, beside himself with excitement. As we (my dog and me) rounded the bend, I noticed a young man with the biggest mop of … Continue reading

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Warning: huge losses due to busyness

What I read this morning led me to answer a question in my journal, and this sparked an awful realization for me. My busyness could be an issue. One of my closest and dearest friends often calls me “Busy Bee’. I … Continue reading

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What you do today defines you tomorrow

Every now and again I read something that makes a light bulb go off in my head – it’s that elusive “aha” moment that we all enjoy. I’ve had a mad and crazy year. I have made more mistakes in … Continue reading

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7 Steps to Improve your Emotional Intelligence

What exactly is EQ (emotional intelligence)? Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, understand and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. This intelligence includes your ability to be aware of your own and other’s emotions and using emotions effectively to … Continue reading

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The role you play in a bad relationship

If I were to tell you that you have   played a role in your bad relationship, you will probably get all defensive. More so if you play the blame game: It’s all your partner’s fault. Bear with me. If it’s your partner’s … Continue reading

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Shhh, don’t tell anyone

When I teach goal setting in prisons, which I do about 10 times a year, I am acutely aware that inmates already know how to set goals. After all, planning a crime includes all the steps to goal setting – … Continue reading

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Bleah days and a 7 step strategy to fix them

I had an appalling day the other day. For a change  I had no appointments or meetings. I looked forward to a day of “getting lots done”. What happened? I was unmotivated, distracted, got nothing of significance done. I procrastinated. … Continue reading

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Beware: The Relationship LIE that Destroys.

  Complacency slips unseen  into long-term relationships. You’ve been together for ages. You know your partner really well. You know what they are thinking, what they are feeling and what they will choose to eat at a restaurant. Yes, you … Continue reading

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