Author Archives: Kirsten Long

About Kirsten Long

Coach. Toastmaster. Prison-worker. Wife. Mother. Friend.

Emotional Nudity – do you need it?

  When you refuse to hide the real you behind a falsely created persona, you are practicing emotional nudity. Emotional nudity is being honest about who you are and what you are feeling – to yourself and to your partner … Continue reading

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Evidence is all you need

What is the one determinant that affects how successful you are in life? Or not? You might think its circumstances, like poverty or an unhappy home. However, there are enough examples of people who have risen successfully above their circumstances. … Continue reading

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Self-Help Ecstacy

Self-help books! I love them! I buy them! I devour them! As I read them this I get this ecstatic feeling, which I suspect has something to do with glimpsing a life that I could be living if I followed … Continue reading

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How to Turn Worrying into a Valuable Tool

I was an expert at worrying. Many of my clients are experts at worrying too. Which means that I really had to work on my worrying issue… Martha Beck gave me some useful insights. She describes the difference between dirty … Continue reading

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Look at what you have done

You are not powerless. Perhaps you are choosing to do nothing. People around me are moaning about the state of the country. Social media are blaring out non-stop negativity about how bad everything is. Hate, crime, violence, xenophobia – it’s … Continue reading

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Why defending yourself destroys your relationship…

Pam was feeling upset. She and Craig just had an argument. In fact, she was also feeling confused. She thought she was doing the right thing. He obviously didn’t. They’d been at a lunch with friends earlier. She was telling … Continue reading

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Help – I’m out of control

You might think that I am going through  a mid-life crisis. You might think I’m being rather silly. You might think I’m plain ridiculous. Maybe I am. Maybe not. Almost every article I have written is about me sharing some … Continue reading

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5 Ways to Walk a Labyrinth

Many, many years ago I walked my first labyrinth. We wandered onto a farm in the Magaliesberg one Sunday whilst exploring the area. I had never seen a labyrinth before and was curious. There were no signs or instructions – … Continue reading

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How to Fight a Smear Campaign

So someone has got it in for you…. They’re spreading rumors, telling others how bad you are and even reporting you to the authorities. How best can you fight their campaign? Let’s have a look at a story that took … Continue reading

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How to Kill Task Avoidance

There were some tasks  I just didn’t get done before we went away in December. Every time I looked at my to-do list, I’d see certain items, and then pretend they weren’t there. Invariably I would  choose  something else to … Continue reading

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