Author Archives: Kirsten Long

About Kirsten Long

Coach. Toastmaster. Prison-worker. Wife. Mother. Friend.

The role you play in a bad relationship

If I were to tell you that you have   played a role in your bad relationship, you will probably get all defensive. More so if you play the blame game: It’s all your partner’s fault. Bear with me. If it’s your partner’s … Continue reading

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Shhh, don’t tell anyone

When I teach goal setting in prisons, which I do about 10 times a year, I am acutely aware that inmates already know how to set goals. After all, planning a crime includes all the steps to goal setting – … Continue reading

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Bleah days and a 7 step strategy to fix them

I had an appalling day the other day. For a change  I had no appointments or meetings. I looked forward to a day of “getting lots done”. What happened? I was unmotivated, distracted, got nothing of significance done. I procrastinated. … Continue reading

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Beware: The Relationship LIE that Destroys.

  Complacency slips unseen  into long-term relationships. You’ve been together for ages. You know your partner really well. You know what they are thinking, what they are feeling and what they will choose to eat at a restaurant. Yes, you … Continue reading

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Are you a nag?

Morning rush is not always the best time for communication, is it? Sometimes even the simplest sentences cause great irritation. There I was rushing around getting things organised for the day. My husband was going to have a hectic day … Continue reading

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Believing is Seeing

Many years ago I met an old man with a silver beard and a poncho. He told me: Believing is seeing! I didn’t believe him. Slowly, over the years, I began to understand … I know that when a person … Continue reading

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The Little Frog

My son had been fixing up the ponds and streams in our garden. As  he was tidying up, he noticed a frog hopping along our boundary wall. “Let me rescue this little frog”,  he thought, “before the dog catches it.” … Continue reading

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Warning: too much fun kills fun

I knew March was going to be crazy. It was. Right now I’m sitting here determined that I will not eat out in another restaurant till next month. I also have a smile on my face. Why? Because my son … Continue reading

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Good from Bad

Thabo, a friend of mine, shares this story: Years ago, I landed an awesome job working as a contractor for a well-known IT company here in Johannesburg. I was going to earn a lot more money and my life was … Continue reading

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Will he ever learn? Will you?

Visiting a tiny village in the deep countryside of Mpumulanga is a little bit like being on a reality TV show – strange characters, shenanigans and whispers all make for deluxe entertainment. One of the characters pointed out to us, … Continue reading

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