The Little Frog

frogMy son had been fixing up the ponds and streams in our garden. As  he was tidying up, he noticed a frog hopping along our boundary wall.

“Let me rescue this little frog”,  he thought, “before the dog catches it.”

“I won’t put it in the top pond because that’s where I’ve cemented,  so I’ll put it in the bottom pond.”

He walked through the garden to the bottom pond and threw it gently into the water.

In a flash the big yellow koi that lives there jumped out the water, caught the frog mid-air, and swallowed it.

He was devastated.

Later, as he told the story we all had a good laugh.

It reminded me that whatever our intentions are, we seldom have control of the outcome.

Which is why the gurus and spiritual readings out there all advise us not to be attached to the outcome.

How do we do this?

  • Let the outcomes guide us and inspire us.
  • Imagine your outcomes every morning when you wake up.
  • Spend a bit of time enjoying the feeling of living the outcome you desire.
  • Then get up and focus on the things that are in your control – your actions, your attitudes and your responses.

And if the outcomes do come your way, be grateful and enjoy!

Success is a journey,
not a destination.
The doing is often more important
than the outcome.
Arthur Ashe






About Kirsten Long

Coach. Toastmaster. Prison-worker. Wife. Mother. Friend.
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2 Responses to The Little Frog

  1. Patience says:

    Hi Kirsten, great article. Thanks.

    My story is a bit different. I lost my father in February this year and this was after he spent weeks in hospital due to stroke. We did our best to move him from a public hospital to one of the best private hospitals in the country with highly skilled medical doctors. He eventually passed on even though we had hopes that he will recover. As you mentioned in your article that the outcome of any situation should guide us and inspire us. I have learned to accept the outcome and chose to embrace the memories I have shared with him. It hasn’t been easy. But your article reminds of the serenity prayer: “Asking God to give me the serenity to accept things that I cannot change and courage to change things that I can”. I have made a decision to focus on things that I can change like staying healthy and having a balanced life (eating healthy, spending quality time with my family, taking time out of my schedule to rest and exercising regularly to stay fit).

    • Kirsten Long says:

      Hi Patience

      Thanks for your comment. My condolences to you and your family. What a difficult time you have been through. Your attitude to this suffering and loss, as well as choice to focus on being healthy and balanced is inspiring. I wish you all the best. Kirsten

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