You’ve got it all wrong.

The rewards of setting and achieving goals are not what you think.

When I made a decision to study Applied Life Coaching in 2004, my goal (obviously!) was to pass. I would day dream about doing really well (I did) and about leaving teaching (I did) and about working from home (I did).

True, there is joy in having achieved my goal. I can tick it off my list. I can say it’s done. I can live the way I planned.

(An aside: much of this is thanks to the support of my husband – thanks my darling!!)

My story supports the common belief that when you set and achieve goals you will be happy. This is seen as the ultimate value of goal setting.

True – It is a value, but it’s not the ultimate one.

When I compare Kirsten before Studying and Kirsten after Studying there is quite a difference.

Herein lies the true value of setting and achieving goals.

It’s about who you become on the journey to achieving your goals.

I learnt, and am still learning, a great deal on my coaching journey about people, about relationships and about human emotions. The biggest learning for me, however, has been in understanding myself. My awareness of my inner state and the affect that has on me and others has allowed me to view myself and others in a more empathetic light. I am also aware that I am still on this journey! There is always more. More to understand and learn…

Who you become on your journey to achieving a goal is the ultimate value in goal-setting.

Working on achieving a goal allows you to grow as a person.

Amongst other things you’ll probably acquire self-discipline, knowledge, new skills, wisdom, and courage and so on. These rewards are the ultimate ones.

Working towards a goal is not so much about the destination, but more about who you become. That is priceless!

WATCH THIS SPACE: Erich Viedge, a leadership guru, and I are hosting a mid-year success accelerator. Let us work with you so that you can move more effectively toward your goals and becoming the person you are meant to be. More details coming soon.

The virtue lies in the struggle, not in the prize.

Richard Monckton Milnes

About Kirsten Long

Coach. Toastmaster. Prison-worker. Wife. Mother. Friend.
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