How I Abused my “Why not?”

I have Balekane Mokoditoa to thank for the inspiration for this post. He gave a speech at Toastmasters the other night that truly inspired me. (One of the things I love about Toastmasters!)

He told us that throughout his life he said, “Why not?” whenever someone suggested something. It got him into trouble once or twice but on the whole it has successfully shaped his life. Making the most of every opportunity that came his way enriched his life.

Thinking over the past two months, I realized I had a similar philosophy.

So when my husband suggested we took our overseas family to the Olifants River for the long-weekend in December, I said, “Why not?”

When my brother suggested we come to the South Coast for Christmas, I said, “Why not?”

When a friend suggested our family joins theirs for New Year in Kenton, I said, “Why not?”

When my husband’s mate asked him to be best man at his wedding in the Philippines in the first week of Jan, we said, “Why not?” (see pic at top of post)

When we heard about the Parlotones Farewell Concert the day after we got back from the Philippines, I said, “Why not?”

When we worked out that our three kids had to be in Stellenbosch a few days later for various reasons, I thought, “Why not drive with them and help them move into their flats?”

Why not indeed?

Once I got home I felt out of sorts. Flat. Sore Body. Not myself.

Then I thought about the hours and hours I’d sat in various modes of transport. I thought about the thousands and thousands of kilometres I’d travelled in a short space of time.

I thought, “You must be mad, girl!”

I believe I may have abused my “Why not?”

However, it was fun! It was an adventure! It was crazy! We saw things we’ve never seen, we experienced things we hadn’t done before. To my huge embarrassment, I even nodded off for a few seconds in the Parlotones concert (whom I love)! Please don’t tell anyone.

Above all, we bonded with people that we love and care about. That’s what made it all worthwhile.

My stern, logical persona wagged her finger at me and told me that it’s important to have some balance in my life.

I agree. I’m back at my desk again, quietly working away the weekdays. I’m loving being back. I’m loving writing articles again. I’m loving connecting with my clients again. Perhaps my life went totally out of balance for a few weeks. That’s OK. It’s OK because now I’m back to relative normality.

“Why not” IS  a great way to live your life.

How do you live yours? Do you say “Why not?” and go for it? Or do you come up with all sorts of excuses for not doing something?

A word of caution: It’s OK to abuse your “Why not?” every now and again but don’t make a habit of it!

Thinking about the past mad weeks, I considered the the positives and negatives, the good and the bad, and the happiness and the irritations.

Will I do it again?

Why Not?

Your Coach 4 Life

“Let us step into the night and pursue that flighty temptress, adventure.”
? J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

About Kirsten Long

Coach. Toastmaster. Prison-worker. Wife. Mother. Friend.
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3 Responses to How I Abused my “Why not?”

  1. Kirsten Long says:

    From one of this blogs followers:

    Ok, this is sort of a “why not” moment.
    I have been looking for something to keep me busy in my “singledom” life that I could enjoy, get something out of and also give back. It almost fell in my lap when I suggested to my neighbour (who has a 15 year old son who is challenged and can’t read) that I assist him with his reading and English.

    I am a very private person but English has always had an attraction for me and so it was natural for me to offer to help.

    I am assisting this little boy voluntarily and I am thoroughly loving it.

    So I went out on a limb and sort of said “why not”.

  2. Kirsten says:

    Thanks Alton. Yes ,we should be careful with “Why nots” as well. A good question to ask when considering why not, is “Will this action add value to my life?” OR “Does this action fit into my value system?”. Learning is what it’s all about in the end!

  3. Alton says:

    I apply the some “How I Abused my “Why not” this past weekend and I kinda burn my fingers however it was a weekend well spend and lesson learn. It does not stop me from time to time, it make one move beyond fear. *great stuff*

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